Feeling lost?

Finding Clarity in Confusion.

Have you ever stood at a crossroads, - literal or metaphorical - feeling completely lost? That feeling in your gut, that whisper in your mind telling you something isn’t right? It's more common than you might think. Many people experience times in their lives when they feel directionless and uncertain. But here’s the good news: feeling lost can actually spark meaningful and lasting change. In this post, we’ll explore how to recognise when you’re lost, why change is necessary, what that transformation can look like, how it feels, and why hitting "rock bottom" is more about your mindset than a specific set of events.

The Moment of Realisation.

The first step in any journey is to recognise you might be on the wrong path. This realisation can be anything but comfortable, it can even be pretty scary. Emotions such as fear, confusion, and relief often flood in at once. You might find yourself questioning key aspects of your life—including your job, friendships, relationships and everything in between.

Signs of feeling lost can take many forms, like a sense of emptiness at work, not enjoying social interactions, or feeling restless. Or, sometimes, they are much louder than that and we find ourselves blindsided, frozen, stuck and deeply depressed. Recognising these feelings is not a sign of weakness; it’s a call to reflect on your life and consider what truly fulfills you. Our minds are amazing places and these thoughts and feelings are our minds' way of saying, "Hey! We need to talk." More often than not, we'll ignore these thoughts and feelings for months, sometimes even for years. What happens then? We sink deeper into the mud and live less and less, until we're merely existing.

Identifying the Need for Change.

Once you acknowledge that you are lost, it's time to pinpoint the need for change. This step can feel daunting because it often requires honest self-reflection, and we're generally not very good at that. Ask yourself questions like: What do I really want in life? What would make me happy? Am I living by my core values? And sometimes, you simply don't know! And I am here to tell you, that's OK! I was thoroughly miserable for years, and I didn't even know it. You are not alone.

Change can feel intimidating, yet it is essential for growth. Embracing discomfort can provide valuable insights about yourself and your desires. Sometimes, simply 'sitting' with those unpleasant thoughts and feelings can help to ease them. I know it sounds counterintuitative, but try to relax into them, if you're anything like me, this will be the last thing you'll want to do. You'll try to avoid, ignore and even run away from them. But, by 'sitting' with them, they become less intimidating, they grow smaller, more manageable and more often than not, it becomes easier to get to the root of the cause. Remember, change does not have to be a major overhaul. For instance, small adjustments, such as dedicating 10 minutes each day to meditation, or exploring a new hobby, can significantly boost your overall well-being. I know what you're thinking - "How is taking up crochet going to make me feel better?" Well, it's not just in the activity itself that we find relief, comfort and change, but in effectively tricking our minds into a different way of behaving. If we can add in, and stick to one simple thing, like a 5 minute daily breathing activity, we start to ask ourselves, "What else could I add in? What else could I change?" In beginning to ask oursevles these questions we open up to the idea and the possibility of embracing change, and, by default, the unknown. It then ceases to be terrifying and instead becomes exciting.

What Change Looks Like.

So, what does change truly look like? It can take many forms, whether that means adjusting your daily routine, pursuing a different career, or even reassessing your relationships. Each individual’s path to change is unique, so it’s essential to identify what resonates with you. What are you capable of right now? When we take on too much, or set unrealistic goals for ourselves, we fail, this knocks already fragile confidence and round and round we go.

Change might mean setting firm boundaries with unhelpful relationships. Alternatively, it could involve seeking job opportunities that align with your passions. It could mean losing 20kg, running a 10 minute mile, getting to bed earlier, starting new, healtheir eating habits. Change looks so different to each and every one of us.

Actionable steps, no matter how small, can move you closer to a more authentic and fulfilling life.

The Emotional Rollercoaster of Change.

The process of change can bring forth a whirlwind of emotions. As you start to make shifts in your life, excitement for new opportunities may coexist with a deep fear of the unknown. It’s crucial to embrace these feelings and recognize that they are part of your journey. Will you slip-up? Will you make mistakes? Yes, yes you will, but it's all part of the process, and what you will learn along the way will be invaluable to you.

You may also face resistance, both from within and from the people around you. Change can disrupt the status quo, and not everyone will understand or support your decisions. Trust your vision and remind yourself that your journey is personal and valid. And don't forget ... misery loves company.

Rock Bottom: A Mindset, Not a Moment.

One of the most enlightening realisations on this journey is understanding that rock bottom is a mindset, not a specific point in time. While many associate hitting rock bottom with crisis, it can also represent a mental space that signals the need for change.

Viewing rock bottom as a mindset empowers you to overcome obstacles and take control. You can redraw the narrative of your life, regardless of how desperate the situation appears. This shift in perspective is liberating and can encourage you to make decisions that align with your true self. Never forget, you ALWAYS have a choice.

Embracing the Journey.

As you go through feelings of being lost and the changes that follow, it's vital to embrace the entire journey. Life isn’t linear; it’s full of twists, turns, and unexpected detours. Each experience adds to your growth and self-understanding.

Take moments to celebrate your progress, always acknowledge the wins - no matter how small. And if there is no one there to celebrate with you, clap for your damn self! Reflect on the lessons you’ve learned and the strengths you've built. Surround yourself with positive people who support your ambitions and share your vision for a meaningful life.

Practical Steps to Navigate Change.

To assist in your journey, here are a couple of practical steps to get you started:

1. Self-Reflection: Dedicate time to introspection. Journaling for even 15 minutes per day can help you uncover your thoughts and feelings. Not your thing? Get a coffee, tea, glass of wine or anything you take comfort in, and just 'be'. Take 10-15 minutes, for yourself, to just sit, think and be.

   
   

2. Set Goals: Identify specific, achievable goals that resonate with your core values. Break these down into smaller, actionable steps, making them easier to work toward. Have no idea what your core values are? That's OK. If you don't know who or what you want to be, start with who or what you don't want to be.

   
   

3. Ask: Reach out to friends, family, or professionals who can lend support. Sharing your journey can offer valuable insights and encouragement. More often than not, a professional will give you a completely different way of looking at the situation and highlight things you would never have thought of.

   
   

The Power of Community.

Feeling lost can lead to isolation, but remember you are not alone. Many people experience similar feelings and you can always reach out to me, I am here.

Consider joining a community or support group where you can share experiences and learn from others. Connecting with like-minded individuals can foster a sense of belonging and encouragement on your path to transformation.

Moving Forward with Confidence.

Feeling lost is not a failure; rather, it is an opportunity for growth and transformation. By acknowledging your feelings, identifying the need for change, and embracing your journey, you can craft a life that reflects your true self. Remember, rock bottom is just a mindset, and you hold the keys to the exit.

As you continue on your journey, keep in mind that change is an ongoing process. Embrace the uncertainty, celebrate your victories, and trust that you are on the right path. The road may be challenging, but it is also filled with potential and new possibilities. If you are feeling lost, take a deep breath and remember: brighter days are ahead.

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